|Posted by Live Love Mom on November 13, 2020 at 7:00 AM|
by: Rev Dr. Stéphanie McEndree
Why spend hundreds of dollars on them when they just get thrown out? Do an e-vite instead, or have people RSVP through a wedding website. This option is also greener and more environmentally friendly. Send a letter to grandparents who aren’t very tech-savvy, or those who don’t use the internet.
Programs. These also end up in the trash. No one needs meticulous details about what happens when, and weddings rarely happen on so strict a timeline anyhow. Save your money and forgo these altogether.
Escort cards. These as well as their place holders will never leave a lasting impression, and guests will forget all about them, especially after the wedding. Make a large seating chart instead.
Slideshows. After sitting through toasts and speeches, why make things extra long by sitting through a slideshow? Opt instead for a slideshow area where people can look at it if they so choose. Otherwise, they will be pretty bored.
Guest book. You will get your guest book about half filled if you’re lucky. Guests don’t sign the guest book. Also, what will you do with it after the wedding? Are you going to look through it? Probably not. How often do you look at your yearbook signatures? Probably never, or once every five years. It’s just not worth it.
Favors. At the end of the day, very little people actually go home with favors. They either forget about them, or they don’t care about them. Instead, donate to a charity or just don’t do it at all. No one will be angry that you don’t have any favors at your wedding.
Multiple locations. It’s actually a pain for your guests to arrive to one location, find parking, only to do it all over again multiple times during the day. Your bridal party will already be at the designated place to get ready–a hotel or your place–and have to worry about getting to the venue. It’s a lot to ask, and adds to the cost of your special day. Stick to one location.
Linens. Use traditional linens instead of those with fancy colors. No one will rae about how unique your linens were. What people often remember are the food and music. Stick with white linens and you will be fine.
Elaborate decor. However fabulous the photos will look, it’s good to have shorter centerpieces so guests can actually see the people across from them to carry on a conversation. Many weddings have minimal decorations and the simplicity is what gives it it’s elegance. Guests will take note about how pretty the venue is, sure; for about a few seconds. They will be more anxious to eat, then party with you!
First dance. The guests don’t care about a choreorgraphed dance, if you sway back and forth, dance during the full song or not. What they care about is sharing that moment with you, the first dance between the two newlyweds. It doesn’t matter how you do it, so don’t shell out hundreds of dollars for private ballroom lessons.
Open seating. Especially with different languages in the family, it’s important to have assigned seats, or at least an assigned table. It will also avoid confusion as to where to sit. No one wants that feeling of wondering where they sit as if they are freshmen in high school. Be sure to sit everyone with anyone else who can speak their language, and keep your divorced parents (or other relatives) away from each other.
Cake. Why go overboard? Don’t get a 7-tier cake with fondant. Fondant doesn’t taste good, and 7 tiers is way overboard. Order your cake with the size of your guest list in mind, and opt for buttercream. Keep in mind, not everyone eats cake. Go with a dessert cake.
Bouquet and garter toss. It can be embarrassing for the single ladies and gentlemen to be on display for their marital status to be shown in front of many people. Guests won’t appreciate being told to halt the festivities either, they want to keep dancing! Let them do it!
Grand exit. It would just stress guests out to be shouted at by the photographer to smile, don’t blink, positioned a certain way, etc. It all feels pretty staged and doesn’t feel very authentic. Don’t worry about sparklers and those perfect photos, just have the deejay announce your departure and make a break for it!
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