|Posted by Live Love Mom on February 4, 2021 at 9:15 AM|
by: Rev. Dr. Stephanie McEndree
Have you made a list of everyone you want to invite, but the catering surpasses your budget? Is your guest list too long for your venue of choice? Are you not sure who to weed out of your guest list, or unsure of who to add to it? Then this is the right post for you.
Family. Unless you are no longer in contact or you don’t get along, inviting your immediate family is common. The bride and groom’s parents and grandparents, and their brothers and sisters with the spouses are where to start.
Close Friends. Invite your closest of friends, who you talk to and see often. Someone you can’t imagine having your big day without.
Extended Family. If you’re close to your aunts and uncles and cousins, you can go ahead and invite them. However, if you barely see or talk to them or if you’ve never met, it’s safe to leave them off of the guest list.
Friends. If you haven’t seen or talked to the person within the last year, it’s safe to say you shouldn’t invite them to your wedding. If you’ve had friends get married and they didn’t invite you, definitely don’t invite them. If you close your eyes and imagine that friend’s wedding, do you picture them inviting you? If not, cross them off the list.
Coworkers and Classmates. Sure, invite them if you spend time together outside of work and are good friends. Otherwise, if you only see each other at work, you can safely cross them off the list. If you don’t see your classmates outside of class, it’s safe to exclude them as well.
Acquaintances. All of these can easily be crossed off of your list, or excluded altogether. These are often just people you know through friends or family. This also includes friend’s plus ones; you don’t have to feed a total stranger. On the invitation, you can write just their name or just the friend’s name on the envelope.
Make a rule about children. It’s becoming more and more normalized for restaurants and salons to ban children from attending. You can confidently say whether or not children are allowed at your wedding, and stick to it. Your friends can get a babysitter, and if they refuse, they can always skip the wedding. It’s your day, it’s perfectly understandable that you don’t want babies crying or screaming during your big day. Love kids? You can always let children be a part of the reception, since it’s a party anyhow, but exclude them from the ceremony. If you’re fine with children being at both, you can always let the officiant know and let them know how you’d like them to handle the situation; ignore it, or make a joke about it.