|Posted by Live Love Mom on May 30, 2022 at 8:15 AM||comments (22)|
By: Rev. Dr. Stephanie Noircent
Renewing vows can be a choice for couples for many different reasons. Being married is a consious choice to stay with the person you love, every single day. Some want to celebrate that choice after a certain amount of time to show that their marriage is still going strong. Lots of couples decide to renew their vows and here are some reasons why:
The first reason is that, after a couple has children, they want their children to be included in the marriage. Especially in small families, some children never get to attend a wedding until their very own. Not only is this a good teaching oppurtunity for them, but they also get to participate in anything the couple wants: the vows, a sand ceremony, candle lighting ceremony, photos, and more.
The second reason is financial stability. A lot of times, especially when the couple married young, they were unable to afford the wedding of their dreams. Sometimes they even had family that didn't agree to the union so they had to elope. Some had to get married in a rush, for example if a relative was dying and the couple wanted them to be a part of the big day. Some even have their wedding at the grave of a loved one to include them. Whichever the reason why they didn't get their dream wedding, financial stability affords the couple permission to have everything just the way they want it.
The third reason is that you want to re-live the big day. For most marriages, the sparks dull and there are no more butterflies after so many years. Being in the moment again, feeling giddy about to express your love to your spouse can light up that fire. You will remember why you got married in the first place, and probably get pretty emotional. You even get to ride that wedding bliss high after your ceremony.
The fourth reason is for a second honeymoon. They come after weddings, do they not? So it ties in well to have a vow renewal ceremony before you are whisked away on a romantic vacation. You also get to feel special again, the apple of your spouse's eye and have some amazing wedding night sex all over again.
The fifth reason is that you've hit a milestone. Whether you've been married 5, 10, 20, 25 or 50 years, it's a good reason to renew your vows. Gather your loved ones and have a small ceremony together to celebrate how long you've been together and how much you still love each other. You can have it on your anniversary and it's a perfect way to have an anniversary party at the same time. You can even make it a surprise for your guests.
The sixth reason is that it’s way more fun. There are no expectations and you can make it as untraditional as you want to. You can renew your vows while sky-diving, just the two of you over dinner at a restaurant, a few close friends and family in your backyard. You have complete freedom. This is something the couple usually craves when a parent, relative or friend held the purse strings of their wedding. When someone else is paying or they make you have someone else's dream wedding instead, couples tend to want to take the reins on their special day. This way, they get to take control and have a blast doing it.
The seventh reason is it’s stress-free. There is no stress when things don't go exactly as planned. Wine spilled on your dress? You can laugh it off. Your husband shoving cake in your face? No problem, you didn't just spend hundreds of dollars on makeup. Arrived late? It's more laid-back so the guests will just chuckle about it. It's much more relaxing and you don't have a mile-long to-do list or nearly as much planning to do for over a year in advance.
The eighth reason is that it has more meaning. Your original vows sound much more amazing hearing them the second time around. You can really see how well you stuck to them and how true they are. You can also make your own and add some oddly specific ones, like: thank you for being there when my parent died, do you remember that time our kids ruined your wedding suit 10 years later, etc.
The nineth reason is simply the love of weddings. Women love weddings, and it will definitely make her day to be able to re-live her wedding day and the excitement of being a bride. Men love weddings too, the husband will also love looking his best in his crisp, fancy suit and watch his beaming wife walk towards him full of love.
The tenth reason is for when the kids have left the nest. Now that the two people are empty-nesters, they can make new vows for each other. Oftentimes, when people get married they have children afterwards. Having children is even mentionned in the vows sometimes, how they can't wait to start a family and hear the pitter-patter of tiny feet. But once those kids have grown up and left to start their own adventures, it's time to remember what life has in store ahead of you. It will just be the two of you living together for the rest of your lives. You can promise to use this time to spend more time together, connect deeply like before you had kids, and go on post-retirement adventures.
The eleventh reason is to highlight forgiveness. Sometimes, marriages can have some truly trying times. Whether it's infidelity, lying, or general betrayal sometimes the couple chooses to forgive each other and stay together. In these instances, they often want to show their commitment to each other and have a fresh start with renewing vows. You can present a united front and show everyone that nothing will break you apart.
The twelfth reason is that it's a reason to party. Why let all of those wedding items go to waste? Bust out that wedding gown, the wedding suit, the silk floral arrangements you kept, your wedding shoes, and everything you have leftover from your wedding. It's great to up-cycle what you used, but also the perfect excuse to have a party with friends and family.
The thirteenth reason is to show strength and committment after a major event. Whether it was a serious illness, a natural disaster, the loss of a job, a relocation abroad or a child's illness, it can definitely shift the focus of the marriage. A vow renewal ceremony can be a way to reward yourselves for getting through it, and getting through it together. It can also shift your focus back onto your marriage and love life now that the hurdle has passed.
The fourteenth reason is to make sure people who didn't make it to your wedding can attend this one. Whether your close relatives or friends were at the hospital or couldn't afford the tickets to your destination wedding, it's a good reason to have a vow renewal ceremony. They will surely appreciate it and you will have lots of gorgeous photos together and have a wonderful time making memories that will last a lifetime.
A fifteenth reason is for renewing your vows is to have a formal ceremony. This ties in with the first reason, but after having a casual ceremony with people wearing jeans and a t-shirt, the couple may later either regret that, or still want a formal wedding. The opposite can be true too: maybe instead of a formal wedding they had they would like to have a barefoot beach wedding.
Either way there are plenty of reasons to renew your vows. If that's what you both want to do, go for it.
|Posted by Live Love Mom on November 2, 2021 at 8:50 AM||comments (0)|
by: Rev Dr. Stéphanie Noircent
Treat them. Treat them to a dinner at a nice restaurant and foot the bill. It's almost expected nowadays that the man pays all the time. Unless it's something that he feels he must do every time, pay for your meal out together. It's a nice change of pace and he won't have to worry about anything other than enjoying himself.
Gifts. You can give them a surprise gift just because! You can spoil your partner just like they spoil you, even for no reason at all other than you love them, or if you're impatient like me and can't wait until a holiday or special occasion. Be sure to pay attention to your partner; has he been eyeing something at the mall or online that he wants but doesn't buy? Get it for him!
Surprise party. These are great for special occasions. Gather family and friends together and organize a surprise party with decorations, gifts and cake. Be sure that your partner enjoys surprises and they are sure to have a blast. Make sure no one tells him and he will be pleasantly surprised!
Make a romantic dinner. Light some candles and bust out the nice china and fancy napkins and make a nice dinner. Serve it on your dining room table and eat it together. You can make his favorite dish, or even a three-course meal if you're up for it.
Breakfast in bed. Wake up earlier than your partner and start cooking some breakfast and be as quiet as possible. Then, serve your partner some delicious breakfast in bed! If your partner wakes up in the middle of it, simply set the table and eat it together. Not much of a cook? Run out and get his favorite breakfast from a fast food place or at the grocery store.
Seduce them. Put on some sexy lingerie and turn on the slow music. Dim the lights and sprinkle some rose petals on the bed, and draw a hot bubble bath. Bust out the massage oil and rub away all that tension in your partner's body. Make love together and cuddle in each other's arms.
Getaway. Book your partner a much-anticipated vacation, no matter what your budget is. It can be at a hotel room in town, a rustic little bed and breakfast, or that second honeymoon trip to a tropical location you always wanted to take together. Enlist the help of friends and family to keep you posted on any plans he makes so you know to avoid those specific dates to book your trip. You can always rent a cottage or log cabin somewhere remote and be just the two of you together for a weekend.
Tickets. Is there a sports game, an opera, a movie, a play that your partner really wants to see? Get some tickets and surprise your partner with them. They will be so happy and find it so thoughtful that you thought to surprise them like this. Be sure your partner hasn't already bought the tickets though! Just in case you end up with two pairs of tickets, make it a double-date and invite your best friends!
Got any more ideas? Comment below!
|Posted by Live Love Mom on July 20, 2021 at 9:40 AM||comments (0)|
by: Rev Dr. Stéphanie McEndree
Table numbers make it easier for guests to know where they are seated. They will know which table to look for once they view the seating chart, or you let them know some other way that they will be sitting at a certain table. It will make things much less hectic for you and for your guests on your special day.
One of the best part about table numbers is that they are easily recyclable. You can either put them in the recycling bin after your wedding, or you can simply reuse them for a different event. You could also give them to a friend or family member for their wedding day.
Before you use table numbers, be sure to have a seating chart and let your venue know how many people and tables you will need. You will also need to know the number of chairs you will need as well. Once that is all settled, be sure to seat strategically so divorced people don't have to sit next to each other or across from each other. You want your reception to be peaceful and fun, not turn into a brawl or a shouting match.
Don’t break the bank getting custom-made numbers designed by a graphic artist or spending hundreds on premade ones. Choose a design and print them off for free at your home printer, or for less than $20 for 12 at Staples!
Here is one place to get some gorgeous, free table numbers:
Check out this site for different free designs:
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|Posted by Live Love Mom on July 6, 2021 at 9:20 AM||comments (0)|
by: Rev Dr. Stéphanie McEndree
My dearest life partner,
Today marks two wonderful, joy-filled years that we've been married. I have to say I am not surprised, since I knew we would be happy together years before we married. We have so much in common, I knew that we were very compatible. Our shared morals and values really brought us together, and I knew we would make a life together. Here we are, having accomplished so much already. I am very proud of us.
Together, we made some of our most important dreams come true. Your dream was always to have a family of your own, and now you do. I wanted a house, and now we live in one. We both wanted a practical vehicle, and now we do. I've always wanted a dog, and now we have one. But most importantly, you have someone to come home to now, and so do I.
The pandemic has seen a rise in breakups. Most marriages are just a couple of hours a night. However you and I got to live together full time when the first wave hit. I am so lucky I found someone I actually like, because now we miss that time together. I love when you have vacation time so we can spend more time together. It brought us closer together and we were able to do the small things like cuddle while watching a movie with the kids. We didn't have to worry about getting up early in the morning for school for them or work. Whatever hardships we faced, we faced together. Small bumps in the road could never stop our journey.
I can never truly express how incredibly grateful I am to you. You changed my life for the better, and the life of my children. You turned everything around for the positive. I am excited when I wake up in the morning, and I look forward to sleeping beside you every night. I love that you give me what I need and express what you need. We've both learned to put ourselves first and advocate for what we want and need, and I am so glad we did. We know to treat each other well and have known since before we got together. We've grown together and become a team, working together for a common goal.
After all of these years being together, and for these last two years as well, thank you for choosing me. Thank you for waking up every day and choosing to still stand by my side and be my husband. Thank you for choosing yourself, your happiness, me, my children, our happiness, our love, and our life together. I love you beyond the stars, my love.
Your adoring wife.
|Posted by Live Love Mom on April 8, 2021 at 9:55 AM||comments (103)|
by: Rev Dr. Stephanie McEndree
Are all your dream venues booked up? Unable to afford a big, fancy venue? Would you like to have a backyard wedding, but your yard is ugly, or you’d see too many commercial buildings in the background of your wedding photos? Here is how you can have a great wedding with beautiful photos either way.
Rent a tent with chairs and tables. It will hide any eye-sores your backyard may have, especially if your tent has walls. Some places even allow you to rent wood floors from them so it looks like you’ve got a venue! Get one as large as your backyard can handle to be sure you can fit all of your guests. Tents are great because no matter if it rains or snows, your tent will protect you and your guests from the elements outside. It is better to have a wedding with a tent in late spring or early autumn so it is not too hot or cold inside the tent. However you can always bring a battery-operated heater or air conditioning unit.
Photograph strategically. Have your photographer avoid including unfortunate objects in the pictures. Position yourself away from the offenders. Big group photos can also help hide anything ugly. Fill up the picture so each end of the photo has people. As your parents, siblings, and in laws all in the photo together. This way you get to have good wedding photos
Clothes lines. Attach clothes lines and drape a sheet with lights to hide any buildings or other eye sores from your backyard.You can also string lights behind the sheet so it looks like twinkling lights and a magical backdrop. If you do not have a clothes line you can set one up. You can also just set up backdrops along the border of your yard like tall balloons or screens that show slideshows.
Decorate. Bring in some flower pots, rugs or even antique furniture to beautify your yard. This will give a rustic feel to your wedding photos. Be sure it will not rain on the day so you do not damage any of your belongings. You can even rent stands and furniture just to showcase for your wedding. You can set up a photo booth, long mirror, even set up a gazebo or two. It all depends on what you can find and rent. There are even giant-sized letters that spell out LOVE or MR & MRS that you can border your land or put in front of any unpleasant things. If you can, remove any eye sores from your yard.
Do you have at least a year before your wedding and you want your backyard to look good permanently? If you plan to move one day, another perk is that it could add to the resale value.
Plant grass. Wherever there is just a patch of dirt or mud, sprinkle some grass seeds and bury them so grass will grow. Keep watering it and mow it when it gets too long. A grassy yard looks better than one that is just made up of dirt.
Plant flowers. Plant a few trees, shrubs and flowers around your house to make it look amazing. You can get inspiration off of photo sites such as pinterest or instagram. You can then look up in your local warehouse stores or florist shops where you can buy the seeds or flower pots where you can take out the flowers and plant them. This way you already know what they will look like so you can choose what you would prefer right away. You can also plant or order privacy hedges to border your land. It looks good and is a natural way to decorate your yard.
Do some landscaping. Lay cement paths, a bird bath, fountains, a gazebo, patio furniture, or anything else you think will look good in your backyard. You can also lay tiles to use as a path to your garden or to the garage. You can also put any stray tools or items in a tool shed you can build or buy. Simple organization can make your yard look much better.
Got any more ideas? Comment below!
|Posted by Live Love Mom on February 18, 2021 at 8:45 AM||comments (11)|
by: Rev Dr. Stéphanie McEndree
Plenty of people have alleged that the divorce rate is much higher than in past decades. I decided to look at the science behind this and see if it's true. From articles that I read, it turns out that the divorce rate had the sharpest incline around the 1970s. So however true this may be, it's important to ask ourselves; why?
Why are more and more marriages failing? The divorce rate currently sits at 50% to 51%, which is extremely high. If we want marriages to succeed, it's good to know exactly why people are getting divorced. Here are the top 13 reasons why people are getting divorced.
The most common reason for divorce is money. There are many different reasons why money may become an issue in a marriage. If only one person works in the couple, the working person may resent the other spouse for not working and contributing financially to their household. In a twist, the unemployed spouse may resent their working spouse for not providing the unemployed spouse with some money for them to get themselves things they need for themselves such as clothing, shoes, and hygeine products. There may also be issues with trust when it comes to money. A spouse may spend money in a joint bank account meant for something else, or shop with the other spouse's credit card without permission. Even when both spouses cannot budget, they will blame each other for their reckless spending and inability to pay bills.
Lack of intimacy
This is definitely a romance-killer. Whether one spouse is being ableist because the other spouse has a medical condition that prevents sex, or one person has a higher libido than the other, this can be an issue. People with high sex drives need plenty of intimacy. However, some people are romantic but identify as asexual. Some spouses just have a lower libido or they don't enjoy sex as much. This can be due to past trauma, their spouse not being a talented lover, or a medical issue. It's important to talk to your spouse about any issues you may have with intimacy. Some have nothing to do with sex, and spouses just want to be cuddled, talked with, kissed, hugged, and generally appreciated. Don't forget to show your spouse you love and appreciate them!
Lack of commitment
Some people get married because society was pressured into it, but they weren't ready to commit. Some spouses even live in seperate houses, even seperate towns or countries. Perhaps one of the spouses believed they would move in together once they were married. When that doesn't happen and the other person doesn't want that to change, they will seek a divorce. It can also be because a spouse doesn't put effort into the marriage anymore. They can come home from work, spend time alone without their spouse, go to bed, then repeat. Like lack of intimacy, this is something that can be fixed with communication and perhaps couples therapy.
Conflict and arguing
Some say if you don't argue, then you don't care. This can be true to a point. If couples find out they have conflicting views and morals, it can very quickly destroy a marriage. Part of the reason people get married in the first place is that they have a lot in common, and agree on how they would raise children if they choose to have any. However, if someone changes core values and beliefs, it causes a rupture in the marriage. Even just constant bickering and nagging can wear the spouses down.
This is one for the history books, as it was one of the first reasons for divorce that was allowed. When your spouse has another relationship or sexual encounter with someone else behind your back, it's a true betrayal. They do it while sneaking around, so you wonder how long it's been going on. You lose all trust in your partner. The infidelity can cause life-altering concequences such as STIs or even a child outside of the marriage. Some people even have double lives and two families. Marriages rarely recover from this, especially when the cheating spouse refuses to change, or they leave their spouse for their lover.
Not too long ago, women weren't able to work and men were the spouses who had full control of finances. Women couldn't escape abusive marriages because they had no access to money to travel and get away. The law was never on their side either, as beating your wife was seen as socially acceptable. With the rise of domestic violence awareness and laws being passed to penalize it, women are finally able to leave abusive marriages. Men can also get away from abusive wives and go to shelters. Now that women can work, they can have their own money and be able to flee a marriage that is toxic.
Lack of compatibility
Arranged marriages often end up in divorce (where society permits it) because the people are just not compatible. People change as they grow and mature. The two people who married 20 years ago are not the same people as now, and they may just not fit together anymore. Sometimes, people just fall out of love with their spouses. If you don't love each other anymore, there is no reason to stay together. Love, trust and communication is what builds a solid marriage, and if you don't have that then there is no reason to stay married.
We all look amazing when we get married as young men and women. As we age, wrinkles and saggy skin happens, and some weight gets gained, some of us lose their hair. There are some people that divorce their spouse because the spouse's appearance has changed to the petitioner's dislike. Maybe you didn't think your husband would be fat and bald as he grew older. However shallow this reason may be, loss of attraction is a real thing. There are also people who will transform themselves and think they deserve better than the person they are with. If someone goes through a makeover or loses a lot of weight, they may not want to be with the person who accepted them for who they were before.
When a spouse develops an addiction to drugs or alcohol, this is often a deal-breaker. Substance abuse not only consumes the addict, but it also drains family funds, ruins relationships, creates debt, and sometimes even puts the couple in physical danger. There are other addictions like sex addiction that goes hand-in-hand with infidelity, or food addiction that fits in with money problems and physical appearance.
Getting married at an early age
Getting married too early has an extremely high rate of divorce. Whether teens married because a pregnancy was involved or they wanted to escape their parents or get emanstipated, it's often not the right person for you. People who get married in their teens or soon after rarely stay married. As you grow, you want different things for yourself and your life. Maybe you believed you would be a famous musician at age 16, but now at age 30 you know that isn't going to happen and how rare that would be to happen. Maybe your spouse grew up to be a completely different person than the one you got to know before you got married.
Getting married for the wrong reasons
If you didn't marry for love, then you didn't marry for the right reasons. Some people get married to allow their spouse to get medical insurance, citizenship, or even just as a business deal. If you don't marry for love, then your marriage will probably not last. A marriage of convenience is not something that is meant to happen, but it still does to this day.
Lack of communication
When you don't talk about any issues or hurdles you may have, there is no way you will know what the problem is or how to fix it. It's always extremely important to talk to each other and not assume the other person will know, no matter how many hints you drop. No one can read minds, so you need to say it with words. Communication is one of the reasons that so many marriages have lasted as long as they have.
Lack of equality and loss of identity
If your spouse starts treating you like you are lesser-than and doesn't want to change, it's time to go. Remember, you are no one's servant. Loss of identity happens when children move out of the home and the parents no longer see themselves as parents, or at least not full-time ones. Even when both people retire, their marriages are no longer a couple of hours per night while they work. They may realize that they can't stand the way the other person chews, or puts their feet up on the table at lunch time. They may get sick of each other and want to divorce, or they may begin to argue while they become stir-crazy. It's important to get out of the house and engage in hobbies and things that you enjoy, whether together or not.
Can you think of any other reasons the divorce rate has increased? Comment below!
|Posted by Live Love Mom on December 11, 2020 at 9:15 AM||comments (0)|
Can’t afford a fancy trip overseas for your honeymoon? Do you only have the budget for your dream wedding or dream honeymoon? Would you rather have a small honeymoon now and a big one later? Look no further! Here is how you can have a honeymoon for as low as $100 per night.
Look on AirBnB. Some people have their entire houses for rent by the day, week or month. Rates can be as low as $15 a day. Check out the owner’s pictures and see what they’re offering.
Hotel room. Some hotels offer rooms as low as $99 a night. Look up the town you want to go to, and then look at different hotels. Make the hotel in another state or province if you’d like some alone time on the road.
Rent a cottage. Google websites where people offer their cottages or summer homes for rent. Many are luxurious with a view on the water, spas, and more. You can even pick your criteria.
Rent a cabin. Similar to renting a cottage, renting a cabin in a remote part of town is wonderful. They are often in mountains or in forests where you can meet plenty of wildlife. This getaway is perfect for someone who loves photography as you can go on hikes and photograph deer, rivers, and views below.
Go camping. Whether you go glamping with an TV or trailer or you use a good old-fashioned tent, you are sure to get the best views of the sky. Lay on a blanket and stargaze with your spouse, cook on the fire, and bond with nature. There are often parks nearby and beaches, and you can even go fishing.
Road Trip. Fill up your gas tank and drive around. You can visit nearby cities and the sights that you've never seen before. Take historic tours, look at the museums, see an art gallery. Go watch a play or the opera. You can see a sports game, go to a cultural festival, a concert, or even a circus. The sky is the limit!
Visit the beach. Go to the nearest beach where you live and make it a day trip. Bring some folding chairs, towels, sunscreen and your bathing suits and you're all set.
Don’t want to make your own meals while you’re there? Go out to a new restaurant every time and get your food cooked for you. It gives you a chance to explore different types of cuisine and culture while you’re on your post-nuptial vacation.
Got more ideas? Share below!
|Posted by Live Love Mom on August 6, 2020 at 9:00 AM||comments (110)|
By: Rev Dr. Stephanie McEndree
Wedding hashtags are rising in popularity. With the social media generation, it makes finding your wedding-specific posts easier.
Hashtags were created to find specific things you are looking for. Since the hashtag #wedding has millions of posts, it would be hard to dig through those for hours just to find your photos. Professional photographers, venues and family members can use a custom hashtag created by the couple so it’s easier to find their posts. Are you ready to find yours?
For those who have tough last names, such as Asian or Russian names, we suggest a hashtag in your own language. Or, use the woman’s last name in a hashtag such as this: #RomanovNoMore for those who will take their husband’s surname. You can also use generics, such as #MrAndMrsGusenov and such.
Here are some ideas for popular last names.
Murray: #WillYouMurrayMe #GettingMurrayed #WeAreGettingMurrayed
Smith: #SmithenByYou #ForeverSmithen #AlwaysSmithen
Hall: #HallwaysAndForever #DeckTheHalls
Moore: #ILoveYouMoore #MineForeverMoore
White: #AllDressedInWhite #WhiteDressWedding
Day: #ItsOurWeddingDay #DayTimeWedding #DayWeddingTime
Lachapelle: #GettingMarriedAtLachapelle #HitchedAtLachapelle
Gates: #GatesToMatrimony #GatesToHeaven
Rider: #RiderOffIntoTheSunset #RiderIntoTheSunset
Herman: #HerManForever #HermanAndWife
Tremblay: #ImTremblayingWedding #ImTremblaying
Black: #BlackTieWedding #BlackSuitWedding
Johnson: #JohnsonNoMore #JohnsonNotLonesome
Gahm: #2CanPlayAtThatGahm #GahmOn
Schucks: #AwwSchucks #SchucksToBeSingle
Wright: #FoundMrWright #FoundMissWright #FeelsSoWright
M(a)cPherson: #YoureMyMcPherson #YoureMyFavoriteMacPherson
Richards: #ForRichardsOrPoorer #RagsToRichards
Jones: #JonesingToBeA(husband's last name) #JonesingToBeHitched
For first names:
Chris & Mary: #MaryChrisMrs
Stephanie & Hugh: #StephanieReasonsToLoveHugh
Hugh: #HughTakeMyBreathAway #ILoveHugh #WillHughMarryMe
Saul: #SaulIEverWantIsYou #SaulIEverWanted
William: #WillYouBeMyBride #WillYouMarryMe
Mei: #YouMeiKissTheBride #YouMaeKissTheBride
Bart: #YoureAPieceOfBart #YoureAWorkOfBart #AlwaysPartOfMyBart #MyLoveMyBartMySoul
Cameron: #CamtWaitToMarryYou #CameronNeedsMaceroons
Zachary: #ZachsWhatImTalkingAbout #ZachsAllFolks
Wanda: #IWandaBeWithYou #IWandaMarryYou
Ashley: #AshleyEverAfter #AshleighEverAfter #AshleeEverAfter #AshMeToBeYours #AshMeToMarryYou
The best hashtags for weddings are punny and make use of the words and names used. When common names are used, such as Smith, the wedding year, date or location can make yours more unique. For your own unique hashtag, be sure to email us at firstname.lastname@example.org or comment below
|Posted by Live Love Mom on July 29, 2020 at 9:00 AM||comments (5)|
by: Rev Dr. Stephanie McEndree
In my experience, it’s always better to write your very own vows. I’ve said vows to my husband three times; once at our wedding where they were bits and pieces of vows I read online I felt I related to. The second, at our handfasting where my husband and I read the traditional celtic vows. And finally, just today where I wrote my very own vows that came from the heart. It’s only with the vows from today that I cried saying them, and that they felt truly 100% right. My husband wrote his very own with no pre-written guides at the wedding, and he cried, and never regretted them. I therefore stand strong in my opinion: always go with your very own vows, straight from the heart.
Now some people aren’t the best writers, and that’s okay. There are many tips that can be used to make your words into beautiful vows, or even just say them the way they are. Here are some tips to help you write vows from your own very heart.
Listen to other people’s vows. Choose the style you like the most, and what you love most about what was said. Was it when the bride reminisced about when they first met? Was it when she described their first I love you’s? Was it when she described the very essence and depth she feels her partner’s love?
Use your own words. This is very important to make them your very own. For example, my cousin’s vows to her wife were ”You are in my bones Heather Dawn.” and her wife’s words were ”You are in my bones, the tips of my toes to the tips of my fingers.” So I went with the parts of me that I felt my husband’s love…I said ”You are in my heart, my mind, my soul, and my womb where our child will grow, Bart Alan.” You see, I described where he was in my being, which turns out were very different places, and had very different meanings. You can do something similar in your vows.
Get fancy. If vocabulary isn’t your forte, look up the adjective you want to use on the thesaurus website and search for synonyms of the word you want to say. For example, if you want to say your husband is good to you but want a fancier word…you can use sweet, kind, generous, understanding, compassionate, etc. Go deeper than a general word if you can. Just exactly HOW is he good to you? What does he do that makes your heart sing?
Choose difining moments. When was the time you knew she was the one? When did you have your first adventure together? How did you feel when she proposed to you? These and many more you can use in your vows, and bringing you back to those magical moments on your wedding day, with your future spouse in front of you looking your best in front of all your friends and family, will make your heart burst with joy.
Include your culture. If you want, you can include aspects of yours and your fiancee’s cultures. You can speak about the times you first read the Torah together, or how special it was having your fiance at Temple with you. If your spouse converted to marry you, that is also something you can bring up to show how moved you were at their dedication. You can include your spiritual journey together, or quotes such as ”couples that pray together stay together.”
Following these tips, you are sure to create a masterpiece. Feel free to write many different drafts, even combine them and make something truly unique.
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Write it out. Write a letter about your favorite moments of your first year of marriage. Trade each other's letters and read them.
Renew your vows. Have a small self-officiated ceremony in your backyard, or even in your home. Recite your wedding vows together and add in some new ones. You can even throw in some humorous vows in there such as, you promise to help him look for things that are right in front of him. Have a good laugh together and make it your own.
Make love. Bust out some massage oil, sprinkle rose petals on the bed and in the bath, have a bubble bath together, play some sensual music, light scented candles and make sweet love.
Stay the night at a hotel. Often, brides and grooms stay at a hotel the night of the wedding, or the night before. Go back to that hotel and stay there again to reminisce. If you didn't like that hotel, choose one in town and make it a staycation. Relax, let the staff clean your room for you, and order in some room service and have some spa services if they're available. If you have the cash to spend, splurge for a 5 star hotel with a jaccuzi, hot tub, pool, sauna, gym, fancy restaurant and massage therapy.
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|Posted by Live Love Mom on April 17, 2020 at 8:30 AM||comments (2)|
by: Stephanie McEndree
Is your husband hard to buy for? Does he have everything he could possibly want or need? Are you tired of getting him the same old gifts? Are you looking for something new and refreshing to gift him? Are you wanting to wow him and also impress him with the originality of his gift? If you've answered yes to any of these questions, you've come to the right place! Here are some unique gift ideas that are sure to make your husband smile!
Land. Emerald Heritage sells real land in Northern Ireland and the title Squire or Squiress to go with it. Whether a tiny or large plot, it makes for a very unique gift especially if your husband is Irish. Highland Titles sells Scottish land and the Scottish title of Laird, Lord or Lady or Glencoe. If you get a 10 square foot plot or larger, you can make him Laird or Lord of Lochaber as well. There is also plenty of merch in their store you can buy to highlight the gift.
Title. Buy a title very cheaply, if you're fine with the certificate being in German. I would suggest Nobility Titles. The aforementionned also include a title with the land they sell. Titles are hereditary with children and can be passed down. Also, the buying of land contributes to nature conservation of native forests. You will also be helping to make a difference in the world!
Celebrity video. On an app and website called Cameo, you can order a personal video from a celebrity to your spouse! You can include keywords of what you would want it to say! Prices vary on how huge and well-known the celebrity is, and they have to be on Cameo to make the video. Celebrities range from sports players, musicians, bands, singers, actors and more.
Personalized song. Pay a musician and singer-songwriter to make a personal song for your husband. It can be a slow song or an upbeat tune. This is all made possible by Songfinch, and you provide details so you can get a truly unique song. You can also buy the song on a CD, record or even in a bear and some sheet music.
Autographed photo. Get an autographed photo of their favorite athlete, it can often be found on ebay or similar sites. You may also find an autographed baseball, football, jersey or similar item. Your husband is sure to cherish it forever!
Blanket. Who doesn't like staying warm? Order a blanket on Canva and put a photo of your choice on there. It can be your wedding photo, a family portrait, a quote, the winning goal in his favorite match, his favorite celebrity, or anything really!
Personalized wallet. You can order one on Wish if you don't mind waiting around a month. It's often in felt or leather and includes a warm message to your husband saying how much you love him.
Tie clip. On wish, you can also order an engraved tie clip that says husband, I love you, or anything similar. This is perfect for the husband that wears ties often whether because he is a businessman, or because he often goes to formal functions.
Got any more ideas? Comment below!
|Posted by Live Love Mom on April 16, 2020 at 10:20 AM||comments (7)|
by: Melinda Humpherys
Lots of wives show they care every day. They might cook, clean, or simply tell their husband they love him. However, whether they are feeling particularly appreciative a certain day, some wives like to step it up and do something special for their husbands. Here are some ideas on ways to show your husband that you care.
Give him a massage. Whether it's a foot rub or a back rub, a massage always feels good for anyone. Set a time where you can get alone time just the two of you. Turn off the lights, light some scented candles, and use some massage oil. Be sure to rub the oil between your hands to warm it up before you massage your husband. You can also put on some soothing music. Who knows, you might get to have some steamy love-making afterwards!
Write a love letter. Describe how you feel about your husband in a touching love letter. You can also write a poem or a song if you're better in a lyrical context. Bring up some happy memories such as when you first met, your first date, your engagement, your wedding day, your honeymoon or the birth of your children. You can list the reasons you love him, what you love about him and how he's shaped you.
Surprise him. Whether it's tickets to his favorite game, doing the one chore he dreads or baking him a birthday cake, catch him off-guard with something he'll love. Put on that sundress he likes and let him show you off on a date you pay for of his choice. Watch his favorite sports with him. Play video games together. The possibilities are endless!
All in all, think about something he wants. If you aren't sure, think of something he would cherish or enjoy.
|Posted by Live Love Mom on April 4, 2020 at 9:10 AM||comments (0)|
by: Stephanie McEndree
Parenting is not for the weak. With mealtimes, cooking, cleaning, working, hygeine, activities and bedtime, it can be almost impossible to find time just for you and your spouse. Kids demand all of your attention, and parenting is wonderful. However, most of the time you were a couple before you were parents, and it's important to find time to maintain your relationship and your marriage.
Spend time together. When the kids are in bed, whether it's naptime or bedtime, be sure to lay in bed and talk for a bit and cuddle. You will probably be exhausted after bedtime, so it's a good way to connect before drifting off to sleep. During naptime, you can cuddle on the couch and take advantage by watching an episode of your favorite TV show, a movie, or even play a game together.
Splurge on a sitter. Whether it's a sitter, your parents, or even one of your older kids, have your kids watched so you can go out on a date night together once a month. If this isn't possible, there are some places that have childcare centers included, such as gyms, spas or restaurants with play areas.
Take a trip together. Whether it's a staycation or a getaway, having some time to unwind to yourselves and reconnect can be a real treat. Take some time to get away just the two of you.
Communicate. With the frustrations of parenting, tantrums and messes, things can get tense. It's very important to communicate effectively so you can get your needs met. Remember, you are a team and it's important to act like it. Together, you can accomplish anything. Brainstorm ideas on things to do together and when.
Listen. When your spouse talks to you, you need to pay attention. It's essential to any relationship, but it's especially important during parenthood. It's important to be on the same page now more than ever. You're parenting little humans together. Your spouse also might have ideas on how they'd like to spend time with you.
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|Posted by Live Love Mom on March 31, 2020 at 6:45 AM||comments (4)|
by: Stephanie McEndree
Your wedding is planned and all set. You’re getting married in a few days, weeks or months. Then, something happens that throws off your plans! For many brides and grooms all over the world, their venues, officiants, caterers, DJs and more are all cancelling on them. Months and years of planning are going down the drain. So, what can you do? Here are ways you can have your dream wedding, or a wedding, during hard times.
Throw out your guest list. If you want to get married on your date, you need to tell everyone not to come. If your country requires witnesses, you can bring two people, but it has to be people you are in close contact with regularly, such as parents, kids or roommates, to minimize the chance of passing on an illness (in the case of COVID19). Ask if the venue will consider still having the wedding if it’s just the couple, two witnesses and the officiant and maybe a photographer.
Online option. Ask if your officiant is willing to marry you both online, where he can sign the marriage certificate once you are married and send it to the both of you to sign it, then you can mail it in. I am not sure if this is possible or even legal, but it can’t hurt to ask.
Stay at home. You can scrap all of your plans and just get married at home. Tell the officiant to meet you at your domicile, or in your backyard for more safety. Get married just the three of you present, and sign the license and be on your way.
Go to the courthouse. If they are open, call and ask to schedule an appointment to get married by a justice of the peace. Remember you can always have your big wedding later. What’s important is to get married and make it official.
Reschedule. Tell your venue to postpone the date for 2021, or ask them when they have an open date available later this year. With the virus being unpredictable, no one quite knows how long countries will be shut down for, so ask for a date several months away.
Remember, the most important thing is that both you and your partner are safe and healthy. This whole thing really is unfortunate, it really is. Hopefully, in a few years you will be able to laugh about it with your friends. You will have a dramatic story to tell your grandkids someday.
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- Play a board game. Go through your board game stash and pick out one to play. Whether it's monopoly, checkers, LIFE or chess, playing as a couple will be fun.
- Play a card game. You can play blackjack together, rummy, go fish, and many other games. You can even do card tricks, or learn some for free on YouTube and put on your own magic show.
- Have a candle light meal. Dim the lights, or shut them off altogether and light some candles and eat a nice meal together.
- Have a book club for two. Choose a book you have read, or read a book, or listen to an audiobook together. Then, discuss together what you thought of the book, your favorite parts, and what you would change.
- Eat take-out to some romantic music. Put on some Barry White or anything romantic and slow, and eat a savory meal together.
- Cook dinner together. You can work on the meal together or take turns making a home-cooked meal for one another.
- Have a homemade pizza night. Decide which type of pizza you want to make, and look up recipes and choose one. Work together to make a tasty pizza for you both to enjoy.
- Have breakfast in bed. You can have brunch foods after sleeping in and munch on some fruit, french toast, sausages, bacon, eggs, pancakes and muffins.
- Make dessert together. Whether you have an old favorite or want to try something new, make something sweet, salty or tasty.
- Try a new recipe together. There are millions of recipes online, or even on the back of cooking ingredients. Bond over cooking and make one together.
- Create a masterpiece and paint. Paint on a canvas, on paper, cardboard, or even your walls if you want a mural style.
- Create an at-home bookstore. You can order books online that you'd like to add to your collection. Check out each other's books and pick the one you would like to read.
- Play 20 questions. Get to know your spouse more and ask them questions you'd like to know about them. It can be as simple as knowing their favorite color, or ask them about a childhood memory.
- Play indoor mini-golf together. Bust out the golf clubs and golf balls and have a mini-putt in your own home or backyard.
- Play indoor croquet together. Don't get too intense with the competition. You can also play in your yard.
- Put a puzzle together. You can pick a puzzle with a lot of pieces and see how fast you can finish it accurately.
- Make marshmallow guns and have a marshmallow war. This will surely be fun and make memories where you two remember laughing and channeling your inner child.
- Have a backyard picnic. You can also have one in your living room if the weather isn't permitting. Pack a picnic basket with yummy foods and go enjoy it on a large blanket.
- Snuggle and watch a movie with some popcorn. It's like going out to the movies without the large pricetag, and you get to cuddle.
- Cuddle and binge-watch a TV show together. Pick a popular one you haven't watched yet so you can talk about it with friends and family later, and understand the memes circulating the internet about it.
- Read a book together. You can read it aloud and take turns, or open it up and let the other know when you are done with the page before turning it. You can also listen to a podcast together or an audiobook.
- Do arts and crafts together. There are many gorgeous crafts you can make with household items, even toilet paper rolls can be made into beautiful floral decorations.
- Fireplace marshmallow roast. Whether you have an indoor fireplace or an outdoor firepit, roast marshmallows on sticks and eat them together. See how you like your marshmallows done the most.
- Camp in your backyard. Pitch a tent in your backyard with sleeping bags and pillows and a cooler and hang out like you're camping.
- Teach eachother something. Teach him how to sew and have him teach you how to change a tire, for example. Essential skills are a good thing to prioritize and are very useful.
- Have an intimate barbecue and grill your favorite meats. You can make some hamburgers, hot dogs, steak, a fish fry, or grilled brochettes and enjoy the results.
- Have a fondue night. Whether it's cheese or chocolate, have a fondue night with your significant other. Use veggies and meats for cheese fondue, and fruits for chocolate fondue.
- Have a vinyl listening party for two. You can also listen to old cassette tapes and CDs and relive the good old days.
- Take a bubble bath together. Even a shower, being there to wash the other's back reinforces your bond because you're working together and caring for one another.
- Create a bucket list together. List things you've always wanted to do, especially as a couple. Write them in the list and plan to do those things together someday.
- Listen to an old-time radio show. Whether it's sports or a scary story, it can feel like going back in time.
- Try to break a guinness world record. If you don't have the book, you can look it up online. You can each choose one, or pick one together to break together.
- Go through old photo albums and walk down memory lane. You can look at photos of when you were kids, wedding albums, your children's baby photos, yearbooks and more. Discuss the circumstances of childhood photos and learn more about each other.
- Make a music video to your favorite song. Even if it's just lip-syncing and jamming around being silly, it will make you laugh in the future and you will have fun doing it.
- Put on some slow jams and slow-dance in the living room. You can practice a dance routine you had together if you took dance lessons, or how you danced at your wedding.
- Have a friendly cooking competition. Whip up dishes together and see who has the best-tasting one.
- Create a code or language to use to send each other coded messages. You can use something like pig latin.
- Learn a new language together. Duo Lingo is a good place to learn a new language and you can do it together. Pick a language that natives speak in a country you would like to visit, or where your ancestors came from.
- Take a personality test and compare the results. See if you agree with each other's results and how you both are compatible.
- Do a scavenger hunt. Choose some items you haven't seen in a while and don't know where they are, and look around the house to find them. You can also choose some items and hide them yourself, and watch your spouse look for them. Take turns and make it fun.
- Do a treasure hunt together. Hunt under the cushions and under the couch and beds to find spare change. The one that finds the most wins!
- Make a vlog or home video. Whether for personal viewing or for posting on YouTube, make it fun and interesting.
- Make a crossword puzzle for each other. You can also find some old newspapers and do those crossword puzzles.
- Play twister. Get tangles up with your spouse and laugh about how silly you look as you try to touch the colored dots!
- Make your family tree and see how far back you can trace your ancestors. You can probably figure out some surprising things about your family and your ethnicity. I would suggest Ancestry as a site to start out.
- Play sudoku. This is especially a good idea for those good with patterns and math.
- Bake something together. Especially something you've never done before. Try to make bread from scratch, for example.
- Make ice cream sundaes. Decorate them with chocolate syrup, some sprinkles and cherries and whatever else you like.
- Bake a cake or cupcakes. Decorate them together and see how it turns out.
- Have a water balloon fight. This is best done in the backyard to avoid mess, but you can also do it in the garage and rinse your car at the same time if you hit it accidentally.
- Have a water gun fight. Fill up those water guns and spray each other! I would stay away from the super-soakers if you are inside however.
- Make long-term goals; saving for a house, saving for retirement, plan a vacation. You can make it fun, such as adding yarn to connect steps to make it a reality.
- Have the other put together silly outfits and model them for each other. The sillier the better! Pick shoes, a hat, a top, a bottom, a scarf and sunglasses and a coat to make a whole ensemble.
- Give each other massages. Grab some lotion or massage oil and relax the tension in your muscles. If you don't know how, there are youtube tutorials that can show you some basic techniques.
- Go stargazing outside. You can lay on a blanket outside and look up at the stars. Bonus for watching in August, when there are shooting stars.
- If you have more than one wine in the home, create your own little wine-tasting station. Bring out shot glasses and pretend they are those little plastic cups for the wine tasting. Rate them from a 0 to 10 scale and choose your favorite.
- Create fancy appetizers such as pigs in a blanket, cheeses, crackers, grapes and cold meats.
- Make smores at the fire pit. They can be messy, but they are a delicious snack. You can also tell scary stories by the campfire.
- Write the story of how you met and how your relationship evolved from your POV and read your partner's. You can also write each other a love letter.
- Make a date night jar together. Grab old popsicle sticks or thumb depressers and write date ideas on it for dates outside of the home.
- Make bath bombs. You can make essential oil bath bombs or regular bath bombs. Make them together, and use them together too.
- Make soap together. If you are already crafty, you can make soap, shaving cream, lotion, sugar scrubs, salt scrubs and even lip balm.
- Play survivalist. Look up which plants are edible, how to make a fire from scratch, and make a shelter.
- Look up a paint by number canvas and print it out, and create a watercolor painting.
- Scrapbook together. Grab some extra photos and make a great memory book with scraps of cloth, construction paper, glitter, whatever you can find.
- Shadowbox important items such as the wedding garter, your first love letters, valentines, etc.
- Finger paint together. Get silly! Make a mess! You only live once.
- Have kareoke night together. You don't even need the kareoke machine, look up an instrumental version of a song you know on YouTube and play it, and sing. Have fun!
- Draw or paint each other. See if you have hidden talents and if not, it will be silly and make each other laugh.
- Ask your spouse to answer questions about you, and take turns. See how well you know each other.
- Play darts. Be careful not to hurt the wall however, so this would probably be better done outside in your yard.
- Play lawn games. You can also play field hockey, soccer, flag football, football or anything you want in your yard.
- Have a dance party! Blast some fast-paced music and show off your dance moves. Grab some flashlights and dance with them, turn it into a rave. You can also dress in your halloween costumes and double it as a costume party.
- Build a snowman together. This of course works best during the winter. Gather hats, scarves, buttons, carrots and branches to make the faces and arms. You can even make one of each other.
- Build an igloo outside. Try to make a snow cave big enough for you to crawl into.
- Make snow angels together. Cover your yard with snow-angels and try to minimize footprints.
- Have a snowball fight. Find places to hide ot build a trench and have an all-out war!
- Make candles. You can make a candle from melted wax of another candle. You can buy wicks ahead of time before your date happens.
- Get some chunky yarn and hand-knit a blanket. You will end up with two large, cozy blankets to snuggle under!
- Play a trivia game. Flex your brains and challenge eachother with a trivia game.
- Play charades and see how good your silent acting skills are.
- Grab some clean snow and make slushies. Mix the clean snow with some fruit juice and have a tasty treat.
- Play video games together. If one of you is a gamer, you can introduce your spouse to your game and play together. If you have old gaming systems, play games you used to play as a child and bond.
- Try a workout session together. There are workouts on YouTube that are free. Start out small if you're a beginner, and challenge yourself if you're advanced.
- Learn something new together. Learn how to knit, how to crochet, new vocabulary, anything you want! Look it up and read about it together or watch videos.
- Complete a guided meditation session together. They have lots of videos like this on youtube playing relaxing music where someone guides your meditation. So get comfortable, close your eyes and enjoy.
- Do yoga together. It's good for stretching as well as strength-building and toning. Look good and do it together!
- If you have a truck, have a tailgate party. Put pillows in the bed, throw blankets in there and watch the clouds. Try to find shapes in them and tell each other who or what clouds look like.
- Grab a pair of binoculars and bird-watch from your backyard. For a silly element, you can make some out of empty toilet paper rolls.
- Make a birdhouse together. Paint a pre-made wooden one or make one in woodshop if you have one. Fill with bird seed
- Garden together. Get some flowers, fruit, veggies or herbs and plant them together. If you already have some, take their seeds and plant them elsewhere.
- Make a pillow fort in the living room and go all out. Use regular pillows, throw pillows, even the couch cushions. Turn it into a real castle!
- Make a new drink together! You can mix alcohol with mixers, or put some fruit juice and soda together.
- Play strip jenga. This should be fun for couples who also like to get frisky.
- Play strip poker. This is another good ice-breaker to get a couple in the mood.
- Play would you rather. If you need ideas, there are plenty online.
- Have a nerf gun fight. Chase each other around the house and find some unique hiding spots.
- Have your spouse do your makeup. The result will probably be hilarious! You can also do each other's hair. If your spouse wants to shave their beard or head, do it yourself and buzz in some funny designs before shaving all of it off.
- Grab a camera and take portraits of each other. Not only will your spouse see themselves through your eyes, you also get some cool shots you can show off on your LinkedIn profile.
- Wash your car in your bathing suit. Have fun with it, have a water fight or suds fight!
- Dance in the rain. You can get in your bathing suits, rubber boots and umbrellas and jump in puddles too.
- Turn your bedroom into a fancy hotel room. Make oregami towels, put a chocolate on your pillows, make your beds with your best sheets and put a buch of pillows, light scented candles and make the room nice and tidy.
- Have an at-home spa date. Do face masks, diffuse some essential oils and sit in a massage chair.
- Have an ethnic food night. Cook italian, french, cajun, mexican, whatever you want!
- Play interior designer. See if moving your furniture or hanging up some photos can make the house look better.
- Pretend you're at a drive-in movie. Use a projector and watch a movie outside.
- Have a pillow fight. Grab some soft pillows and have a pillow fight on your bed. Have fun with it!
- Have a food fight. You can make it sexy and use dessert foods such as chocolate syrup and whipped cream and lick it off each other afterwards.
- If you have a large tub, do some jello or mud wrestling. It'll be easy to clean up afterwards since it's in the bath. You can make bubbles and have a foam party afterwards!
- Visit a museum online together. These museums have online tours: The British Museum in London, The Vatican Museum in Vatican City, the Dali Theatre and Museum in Spain, and the Louvre in France.
- Decorate ceramic mugs together. If you have the materials, look up how to do it. Paint the mugs and heat them to dry the paint.
- Recreate your first or favorite date at home. It may be a challenge but it will be sentimental and sweet.
- Take some online dance lessons. YouTube has a lot of free tutorials where you can learn some new dance moves.
- Make milkshakes or floats. They are nice treats to enjoy indoors.
- Sip hot chocolate, tea or coffee on your patio, balcony or porch. Bonus if you watch the sunrise or sunset together, or if you have a time of year where there is a lot of kite-flying, hot-air balloons or fireworks you can watch at the same time.
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