|Posted by Live Love Mom on September 25, 2020 at 9:00 AM||comments (0)|
by: Dr. Stéphanie McEndree
Not sure how you can keep guests hydrated and happy without paying $2 a glass from a caterer? Whip up some punch! Here are some tips on how to make it happen.
Non-alcoholic punch. Having a dry wedding? It’s important to have some tasty drinks to keep things tasty, so mix up a mocktail for your guests. You can find plenty of recipes and ideas here.
Spiked punch. There are some wonderful recipes out there that mix many different types of alcohol, even beer! My favorite is a list of 14 big batches of recipes, all for under $30 here. You can also find many more recipes here.
Keep it cool. Make a punch ice ring that will slowly melt to keep your punch nice and cold for hours. It’ll infuse the concoction with flavor instead of watering it down. Not sure how to make one? Here is a recipe, and you can find many more online and on Pinterest.
Make big batches. Whether you are serving slush-like cocktails, spiked punch, cocktails or mocktails, you will need big batches for weddings, even if you only have 25 guests it’s better to have too much than not enough.
Glassware. Be sure your venue or caterer provides enough glasses for everyone, even if it’s just one per guest. If you are providing your own, be sure you have enough and that there is a sink available at the venue for guests to rinse out their glasses if they want to try many different cocktails.
Keep guests hydrated. No one wants a hangover in the morning, or guests getting sick due to dehydration. Keep plenty of bottled water on hand, or bring a water dispenser if you have one, or make sure there is a water fountain at the venue. This is especially true if your venue is outdoors and during the hot summer months. You want to keep your guests happy, healthy and comfortable.
|Posted by Live Love Mom on September 18, 2020 at 9:00 AM||comments (0)|
by: Dr. Stéphanie McEndree
I can't believe you're gone. I was sure we would have at least a few more years together. I wasn't told that you were in pain, or that your health was declining. I wish I had been informed sooner, before it became too late. I was told before you went, you had no more pain. I am glad that you were able to pass away with your dignity intact, and that you are no longer suffering. You never wanted to be in a nursing home, so I am relieved you never had to go in one. You were able to stay home with your wife and close to your loved ones.
I am very thankful that you came to my wedding. My brother and myself, and my girls were able to see you one last time before you passed away. My brother hadn't seen you in three years before then so it was especially important. You got to meet his girlfriend of now seven years. I am glad that I went to visit you April of last year. We got to spend a week in your home where my girls brought you great joy. My oldest particularly enjoyed your company, and would cuddle and hug you a lot. We all sat together during mealtimes and ate well.
Not many men live to meet their great-grandchildren, and I am so happy you met yours. I never had the pleasure of meeting any of my great-grandfathers, and here both my kids met both of theirs through me. It truly is a blessing. You were there for the most important milestones of my life; my children's blessings, and of course my wedding. You got to meet my kids when they were babies, and got to watch them grow up to school age. That certainly is something.
I remember you fondly. My brother and I would play in your basement when we were just kids. As we grew up, we got to spend more time with you. I would cook with Grandma and my brother would accompany you in your wood-working. I'd knit with my grandma and you'd play outside with my brother. We were always well fed, loved and pampered when we went to your home. We got to spend time with my aunt Trina and all her dogs. You even came to visit us during different holidays. It was very special having grandparents who not only spoke english, but who were so active in our lives. There wasn't a birthday or Christmas that went by without us getting a card from you and Grandma, even as adults.
When I visited you in PEI, you told me your life story. I wanted to share that with the family now, and I can tell you that I won't ever forget it. You were a strong and brave man, and you loved your family the best you knew how. We will always remember you and keep you close in our hearts. We love you, Grandpa. We attended your funeral and there was no dry eye, not even my kids. They understand now that you're gone and you aren't coming back. They also know that you are watching over them now. Rest well, Grandpa. Rest in peace.
You were born the day after Christmas in 1939 to Alexandre Hallis and Marie Marguerite Baker, in Montreal. You were their first child, and you would later have six brothers and sisters. The youngest of your siblings was born when you were 9 years old. Your family lived in Longueuil, and you were particularly close to your Aunt Rosie. When you were about 15 years old, you were given to an all-boys orphanage. Your mother was deemed mentally unfit to care for her children, and your dad was working. Your siblings were also put in orphanages. You spent your teenage years in that orphanage, and you were able to visit your family for Christmas. They always gifted you clothes, since toys were not allowed to be brought back with you to the orphanage. You got to spend holidays with them. The orphanage wasn't easy, as the boys would cause fights and there were bullies there as well. At 16 years old, you finally got out of the orphanage. Orphanages were being abolished and a foster care system was set up, and you had nowhere to go. You told me that your younger brother Georges was taken from your parents and placed with a foster home at that time. You said he was the only one never to have been put in an orphanage, and you suspect he was abused. You signed up after new year's in January, in the military by telling them you were 18 years old. You chose the Air Force, and started out as a Private. Finally you could start your career, and you had a place to go. In your 20s, you were stationed in Prince Edward Island, where you met my grandmother. You were married in August when you were 23 years old and settled on the island with your wife. The next year, you had my dad. My grandma got pregnant twice more but unfortunately miscarried. She was told by the doctors that she would never have any more children. You moved to Bagotville since you were assigned to the base there, and Grandma was pregnant again. Thankfully, 6 years after my dad was born you had a healthy baby girl, my aunt Trina. You stayed there for a few years and that's how my dad and aunt learned french. You knew french already since you were born and grew up in a french province, but it was new to my dad and his sister. Grandma of course refused to learn the language so it must have been lonely for her. As live went on, you were stationed in Nova Scotia, and even Germany as my dad recalls. My dad told me that at one point you were in boarding houses for military families, and there were rats that came in the house out of the toilet. I was told that you killed the rat, flushed it down the toilet, so that ''those other rats know not to come up this toilet''. That actually worked. You found your calling in the air force as a firefighter and put out fires in military airplanes. You had accululated so much vacation time that you ''went on vacation'' when you were 52 years old. By the time you were 55, you had retired at the highest rank, Chief Warrant Officer. You settled in PEI with your wife and daughter. You wisened into old age and watched your kids, grandkids, and great-grandkids grow up. You did wood-working as a hobby and didn't do it for a profit. You could figure out measurements just by looking at a photo of something. You were really talented. Your father's family came from the Ukraine and Poland, and your mother's family was french. You were buried in Pleasant Valley, PEI.
Rest In Peace
|Posted by Live Love Mom on September 11, 2020 at 9:00 AM||comments (0)|
by: Dr. Stephanie McEndree
Unlike a lot of blog posts I have seen out there, some people truly do enjoy invastive, over-pruducing and hardy perennials to reap a ripe harvest. Whether you are planting a little bit that you want to spread over a large area or you want to plant it in a pot to keep it contained, these plants can come in handy. You can plant it once, and harvest it forever with a large production.
Rhubarb. The roots and leaves are poisonous, so be sure only to harvest the stalks. As soon as it starts to flower, remove the flower and that entire stalk so the plant focuses oh making a ripe harvest. You can harvest in the spring time as well as the fall. The leaves get very big so they can block the sun from other plants so be sure to give it some space.
Mint has been described by many homesteaders and gardeners to be invasive. Even just one mint plant will multiply into many and take over your garden very quickly. So if all you have is mint or all you want is mint, this is the plant for you. To keep it under control, you can keep it in a pot. However, mint can be a steady source of income during the summer, sometimes even during the colder months. You can simply uproot the plants you don't want, get a cheap pot at the dollar store, and sell them locally. If you keep them in a big pot indoors, they will have enough room to make more plants, which you can sell during the winter as well. The harvest is always huge, as mint plants grow tall with many leaves, and even flowers in July.
Chives are told to be impossible to get rid of, so be sure you want this in your garden. I've seen people say they have removed bulbs yet still have chives growing in their garden, or that in May they are already getting started. Be sure chives is something you or someone you know would appreciate eating or having. What is lovely about chives is that they will grow each and every year without fault after you planted them once. You will have plenty of food for years to come!
Oregano is an herb used for cooking, popurri or as a spice. It's very resiliant, so you don't have to worry about your oregano plants dying. Simply put them in a pot and keep them by the sun and water them. You can also plant them outside in your garden and enjoy a bountiful harvest in the warmer months.
Creeping Thyme is another herb that is used as a spice or in cooking. It adds an earthy taste to your dish and is great to add in oven-baked goods as well as crock-pot recipes. Plant it in your outdoor garden, or even as a crop if you have a farm.
St Johns Wort has many healing properties. It's said to be used as a natural supplement to treat depression among many other things. It produces well and has a great survival rate. This can be potted or used outdoors. For better protection against bugs and chemicals, put them in a pot indoors. Just don't fertilize them in this case as the whole house will start smelling.
Bamboo has the same uses as wood and can even be made into textiles. It grows fast and over-produces and is very invasive. If you are able to plant some, be sure it's far away from other plants as it will take over your garden. Lots of buildings are made with bamboo as well as furniture, clothing, blankets and bags. Bamboo comes in handy if you know what to do with it.
|Posted by Live Love Mom on August 28, 2020 at 9:00 AM||comments (3)|
by: Dr. Stephanie McEndree
It’s the age-old question; is it cheaper and better to buy or rent linens? Here we break down the pros and cons of each so you can make your own educated decision.
Pros of renting linens:
You don’t have to worry about re-selling them
They won’t take up room in storage in your home
The renters often decorate for you
Your wedding insurance can reimburse you if you make a claim if something went wrong
No need to clean up, the providers will do it for you
No need to come back after the wedding and pick things up
Cons of renting linens:
It’s often pricier, going upwards of $3-$5 per item or more
There is a LOT of stuff to rent; chair bows, chair covers, table cloths, table skirts, napkins, table runners, etc.
You run the risk of the provider never showing up or bringing the wrong linens
The providors could decorate things not to your stipulations
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Pros of buying linens:
Often cheaper and sold in bulk
You can always make your money back by reselling them
You can decorate the room exactly as you like it
You get to keep them for future fancy events if you so wish, such as baptisms, baby showers, anniversary parties, retirement parties, graduation parties and more
You can pass them on to friends, family or even your child for their wedding
You buy exactly what you want and you know you’ll get exactly what you want at your wedding
Cons of buying linens:
You’ll probably have to wait until wedding season rolls around again for you to resell them
You’ll have to clean up yourself (in some cases)
You’ll have to go back to the venue after the honeymoon to pick them up, or arrange a family member or friend to pick them up after the wedding
You’ll have to wash them yourself, and depending how big your wedding is, can mean MANY loads of laundry
Takes up space in your home as you wait to resell them
Feel free to add more pros and cons in the comment section if you can think of any others. I hope this post helps you narrow down which choice you’d like to make for your wedding.
|Posted by Live Love Mom on August 21, 2020 at 9:00 AM||comments (3)|
by: Dr. Stephanie McEndree
Are you a bride who doesn’t mind going against the grain? Do you wish you could get away with a different color dress at your wedding? Do you dream of adding a splash of color to your dress? Then this beautiful trend is perfect for you!
You don’t even need to stick to one color. You can go with rainbow colors, colors of the sunset, or even many different shades of a single color. Your dress is sure to be unique and stand out on your special day.
Guests will be wowed that you took such a daring plunge as you walk down the aisle. Your dress will make a lasting impression for years to come. You won’t ever be forgotten, that’s for sure! Such a bold statement and all eyes are sure to be on you.
Sure, more traditional and closed-minded brides may turn up their noses at this trend. However, did you know that the white dress was made popular by one royal bride wearing it to her wedding? It was thought to be extremely lavish to have a white dress only for one day since it wasnharder to wash out stains back then. Without this revolutionary choice, brides would still wear black to this day!
So put on that dazzling dress and glide to your future spouse. You are radiant, confident and a goddess. You are a trend setter, and you follow your own rules. Strut your stuff and get married!
What I love about this look is that it looks like the bride stepped into the sunset as if it’s a painting. The yellow and red look like the flames of love that she will be fanning effortlessly throughout her marriage. It shows that she would walk through for for her spouse. The darker colors below look like the dark of night, like those cold winter evenings she will warm her husband, and how in dark times she will still be there. These types of dresses tell so many stories, they’re a work of art on their own. It’s like getting married in a famous painting that fits you just right.
A bonus is that this dress can fot in with all sorts of different traditions and cultures. It’s perfect for a Dia de los Muertos wedding, as well as for a Celtic wedding with the groom wearing a similar quilt. They look great in every season, and compliment many different skylines, backdrops and landscapes.
An unexpected advantage? With your dress dark at the bottom, any dirt accumulated during the day walking outdoors and kicking up dust won’t show at all. Some dirt won’t even show up in photos, let alone stand out against the wine red or midnight sky colors. You can trudge through mud, stomp the yard and dance up a storm without a worry!
Your photos are guarenteed to look spectacular. You can even have bridesmaids with dresses that compliment your dress colors; such as red, orange, yellow, blue or purple. You can even have all of the above with mismatched dresses! The possibilities are endless. You can even DIY this look yourself or custom order!
|Posted by Live Love Mom on August 13, 2020 at 9:00 AM||comments (7)|
by: Dr. Stephanie McEndree
Edible greens can come from surprising places. Some are so hardy that they grow through cracks in the sidewalk! A lot of people simply remove weeds and throw them away. You can simply harvest them, wash them, and eat them. In fact, here are the most common weeds in almost every backyard that are not only edible, but bring a lot of nutritional value to your daily meals.
Clover has many different uses. You can pick it directly from the ground and wash it, and stick it in a salad. You can also leave it out in the sun to dry, and use it to make tea with the flowers. They are also edible raw and can be sauteed in different meals for a splash of color.
Plantain has both medicinal and edible purposes and is very popular for the forager. They can be added topically to soothe burns, rashes, stings and wounds. The leaves, whether old or young, can be sauteed, steamed, boiled or eaten raw after being washed. The seeds can be ground into a flour or cooked like a grain. These can also be used as fiber supplements or laxatives.
Dandelion is probably the most common weed listed here, and it can be very invasive with how fast it grows, spreads, and comes back even after removal. The roots go in very deep into the soil that they are nearly impossible to remove for good. The plant can regenerate and grow from a broken off root. The young leaves are considered less bitter, but the older ones are also very much edible. They can be eaten raw or cooked, and every part is edible. You can add the leaves in a salad, steamed or sauteed, even added to soups. The flowers can be eaten raw, breaded, fried, or used to make wine or syrup, or even salves. Roots are often dried to make tea, or roasted, or added to root vegetable recipes. Dandelions are way too useful to simply be pulled out and thrown away. In the past, people used to remove grass to plant dandelions.
Wood sorrel can be used as a thirst quencher and is said to be very refreshing to eat, so it's also popular for foragers during the hot summer months. The flowers, leaves and immature seed pods are edible but are said to taste sour like lemons. They can be a wonderful addition to salads, soups, seasoning and sauces. They look like clovers, but can be differenciated by the heart-shaped appearance of the leaves. They also have yellow floweds, when clover has purple or white flowers.
Curly Dock also known as yellow dock, is recommended to be eaten in moderation. The leaves can be eaten raw when they are young, and the older leaves need to be cooked and can be added to salads or soups. Stems can be peeled and eaten raw or cooked, while the mature seeds can also be eaten raw or boiled, and can also be roasted to make a drink similar to coffee. Change the water several times when you cook them because they are high in oxalic acid.
Purslane is most often found in damp areas where there is ample shade, so it is often never far from a body of water, a valley, or anywhere that regularly gets hosed or collects a lot of rainwater. You'd never think to look twice at this weed, but it's actually in the succulent family that can be eaten raw, cooked, or added to recipes for a natural pepepr flavor. Both the leaves and stemps are extremely rich in omega-3 and antioxidants. Add them to a stir-fry, salad, or to stews or soups.
Lamb's Quarters are in the spinach family and are also known as goosefoot. The seeds are similar in appearance to quinoa and can be eaten as a side or main dish. Goosefoot can be eaten raw, steamed, sauteed or used as a replacement for spinach.
Chickweed can be made into a tea and used as a slight diuretic. With both edible and medicinal properties, this weed is always a joy to have in your backyard. The leaves, stemps and flowers can be consumed cooked or raw. It tastes like spinach and can also be used topically for small cuts, rashes and burns.
Wild Amarath also known as pigweed, are popular with vegan foragers as the seeds are a great source of protein. They can be gathered and cooked whole grain or as a ground meal. Older leaves can be cooked similar to spinach, and younger leaves can be used in any recipe that requires leafy green vegetables such as salads or garnishes.
Mallow also known as malva or cheeseweed is mainly found in the United States in lawns or gardens. The leaves and seeds are edible either raw or cooked, especially when they are young. More mature leaves are best cooked, steamed, boiled or sauteed. Like the name might suggest, it doesn't taste like cheese and is not a cheese replacement.
|Posted by Live Love Mom on August 6, 2020 at 9:00 AM||comments (7)|
By: Rev Dr. Stephanie McEndree
Wedding hashtags are rising in popularity. With the social media generation, it makes finding your wedding-specific posts easier.
Hashtags were created to find specific things you are looking for. Since the hashtag #wedding has millions of posts, it would be hard to dig through those for hours just to find your photos. Professional photographers, venues and family members can use a custom hashtag created by the couple so it’s easier to find their posts. Are you ready to find yours?
For those who have tough last names, such as Asian or Russian names, we suggest a hashtag in your own language. Or, use the woman’s last name in a hashtag such as this: #RomanovNoMore for those who will take their husband’s surname. You can also use generics, such as #MrAndMrsGusenov and such.
Here are some ideas for popular last names.
Murray: #WillYouMurrayMe #GettingMurrayed #WeAreGettingMurrayed
Smith: #SmithenByYou #ForeverSmithen #AlwaysSmithen
Hall: #HallwaysAndForever #DeckTheHalls
Moore: #ILoveYouMoore #MineForeverMoore
White: #AllDressedInWhite #WhiteDressWedding
Day: #ItsOurWeddingDay #DayTimeWedding #DayWeddingTime
Lachapelle: #GettingMarriedAtLachapelle #HitchedAtLachapelle
Gates: #GatesToMatrimony #GatesToHeaven
Rider: #RiderOffIntoTheSunset #RiderIntoTheSunset
Herman: #HerManForever #HermanAndWife
Tremblay: #ImTremblayingWedding #ImTremblaying
Black: #BlackTieWedding #BlackSuitWedding
Johnson: #JohnsonNoMore #JohnsonNotLonesome
Gahm: #2CanPlayAtThatGahm #GahmOn
Schucks: #AwwSchucks #SchucksToBeSingle
Wright: #FoundMrWright #FoundMissWright #FeelsSoWright
M(a)cPherson: #YoureMyMcPherson #YoureMyFavoriteMacPherson
Richards: #ForRichardsOrPoorer #RagsToRichards
Jones: #JonesingToBeA(husband's last name) #JonesingToBeHitched
For first names:
Chris & Mary: #MaryChrisMrs
Stephanie & Hugh: #StephanieReasonsToLoveHugh
Hugh: #HughTakeMyBreathAway #ILoveHugh #WillHughMarryMe
Saul: #SaulIEverWantIsYou #SaulIEverWanted
William: #WillYouBeMyBride #WillYouMarryMe
Mei: #YouMeiKissTheBride #YouMaeKissTheBride
Bart: #YoureAPieceOfBart #YoureAWorkOfBart #AlwaysPartOfMyBart #MyLoveMyBartMySoul
Cameron: #CamtWaitToMarryYou #CameronNeedsMaceroons
Zachary: #ZachsWhatImTalkingAbout #ZachsAllFolks
Wanda: #IWandaBeWithYou #IWandaMarryYou
Ashley: #AshleyEverAfter #AshleighEverAfter #AshleeEverAfter #AshMeToBeYours #AshMeToMarryYou
The best hashtags for weddings are punny and make use of the words and names used. When common names are used, such as Smith, the wedding year, date or location can make yours more unique. For your own unique hashtag, be sure to email us at email@example.com or comment below
|Posted by Live Love Mom on July 29, 2020 at 9:00 AM||comments (5)|
by: Rev Dr. Stephanie McEndree
In my experience, it’s always better to write your very own vows. I’ve said vows to my husband three times; once at our wedding where they were bits and pieces of vows I read online I felt I related to. The second, at our handfasting where my husband and I read the traditional celtic vows. And finally, just today where I wrote my very own vows that came from the heart. It’s only with the vows from today that I cried saying them, and that they felt truly 100% right. My husband wrote his very own with no pre-written guides at the wedding, and he cried, and never regretted them. I therefore stand strong in my opinion: always go with your very own vows, straight from the heart.
Now some people aren’t the best writers, and that’s okay. There are many tips that can be used to make your words into beautiful vows, or even just say them the way they are. Here are some tips to help you write vows from your own very heart.
Listen to other people’s vows. Choose the style you like the most, and what you love most about what was said. Was it when the bride reminisced about when they first met? Was it when she described their first I love you’s? Was it when she described the very essence and depth she feels her partner’s love?
Use your own words. This is very important to make them your very own. For example, my cousin’s vows to her wife were ”You are in my bones Heather Dawn.” and her wife’s words were ”You are in my bones, the tips of my toes to the tips of my fingers.” So I went with the parts of me that I felt my husband’s love…I said ”You are in my heart, my mind, my soul, and my womb where our child will grow, Bart Alan.” You see, I described where he was in my being, which turns out were very different places, and had very different meanings. You can do something similar in your vows.
Get fancy. If vocabulary isn’t your forte, look up the adjective you want to use on the thesaurus website and search for synonyms of the word you want to say. For example, if you want to say your husband is good to you but want a fancier word…you can use sweet, kind, generous, understanding, compassionate, etc. Go deeper than a general word if you can. Just exactly HOW is he good to you? What does he do that makes your heart sing?
Choose difining moments. When was the time you knew she was the one? When did you have your first adventure together? How did you feel when she proposed to you? These and many more you can use in your vows, and bringing you back to those magical moments on your wedding day, with your future spouse in front of you looking your best in front of all your friends and family, will make your heart burst with joy.
Include your culture. If you want, you can include aspects of yours and your fiancee’s cultures. You can speak about the times you first read the Torah together, or how special it was having your fiance at Temple with you. If your spouse converted to marry you, that is also something you can bring up to show how moved you were at their dedication. You can include your spiritual journey together, or quotes such as ”couples that pray together stay together.”
Following these tips, you are sure to create a masterpiece. Feel free to write many different drafts, even combine them and make something truly unique.
|Posted by Live Love Mom on July 22, 2020 at 9:00 AM||comments (5)|
Translated from french
A dad comes home after an exhausting day at work. He just wants to watch his soccer game without having to endure the cries of the kids or take care of the housework. But that day, his wife couldn't take it anymore and left him. Her world breaks down when she leaves him alone with her children. Here are these words:
" My love,
two days ago we had a big fight. I came home tired from work. It was 8:00 pm and all I wanted to do was sit on the couch to watch the game.
When I saw you, you were exhausted and in a bad mood. The kids were bickering and the baby was crying while you tried to put him to bed.
I turned up the volume on the TV.
‘Would you mind giving a hand and getting involved in your children's education?’ You said to me upset by turning down the TV.
Exasperated, I replied: ‘I spent my day at work so that you could spend yours at home playing dolls.’
The tone is raised. You cried because you were angry and tired. I told you cruel things. You shouted, saying you couldn't take it anymore. You left the house crying and left me alone with the children.
I had to feed them and put them to bed. The next day, you didn't come back and I had to ask my boss to have a day off to take care of the little ones.
I became aware of the whims and tears.
I realized what it was like to be everywhere at the same time, all day long, without having a free moment even to take a bath.
I realized what it was like to heat the milk, prepare a child and put the kitchen away, all at the same time.
I realized what it was like to be stuck all day without talking to someone over the age of 10.
I realized what it was like not to be sitting comfortably at the table, enjoying a quiet lunch on my break time, because you have to run after the kids.
I was so mentally and physically tired that the only thing I wanted was to sleep for 20 hours straight. But I had to wake up after 3 hours because the baby was crying.
I experienced two days and two nights in your own skin and I can tell you, I understand.
I understood your fatigue.
I understood that being a mom is a perpetual sacrifice.
I understood that it was more tiring than sitting in my chair for 10 hours or making financial decisions.
I understood your frustration at having abandoned your career and your financial independence so that you could raise our children.
I understood your doubts that our economic security no longer depends on you, but on your partner.
I understood the sacrifices you made by never going out with your friends, forgetting your exercises or not sleeping an entire night.
I understood how difficult it was to be trapped and to have to watch the children when you missed what was going on outside.
I also understood why you were susceptible when my mother criticized the way you raise our children, because no one knows better than a mother what is good for them.
I understood that becoming a mother means occupying one of the most important roles in our society. What no one recognizes, appreciates or remunerates.
I am writing this letter not only to tell you that I miss you, but also because I do not want to spend another day without telling you that:
"You are very brave, you do it perfectly and I admire you."
This very moving letter was shared more than 110,000 times on Facebook. To all the moms who have cared for or are still caring for us and who do so much for us, so much so that we take it for granted, this letter is for you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
|Posted by Live Love Mom on July 17, 2020 at 9:00 AM||comments (5)|
By: Dr. Stephanie McEndree
We all have had at least one child who would rather be naked or in their underwear or diaper all day, every day! It makes it easier for them to lift up their knees as high as they can, do jumping jacks, or whatever else they have set their minds to do. However, there are times where kids have to suck it up and put some clothes on, especially in NO SHOES, NO SHIRT, NO SERVICE places. Unfortunately, trying to get them dressed is a whole other story. Meltdowns happen, tantrums are thrown, and kids refuse to clothe themselves. It can take forever to get your children finally dressed, and at that point they are kicking and screaming, or peeling their clothes right back off. So how can you get your kids clothed when the just do not want to be? Read on to learn more.
Here are some tips that my husband has come up with to help get kids dressed.
Help them. Even if they do not need the help, sometimes it will be enough to see you involved and willing to help, that they will cooperate. Put the shirt over their heads and help them put their arms through the sleeves. Place the shoes at their feet and hold them so they can balance as they slip their feet in. Open the waistband of pants so they can slip their legs in easier. Whatever it is, in my experience, they should cooperate.
Do not announce. Depending on the child, if you announce it is time for them to get themselves dressed, they will bolt. My girls love to run away and hide if we tell them that it is time to get dressed. In our cases and cases like this, it is best not to annouce that it is time to get dressed, or that they have to dress themselves. It works better for us if we say in the beginning of the day that they will need to get dressed later today.
Involve them. Include them in the decision making process. Bring two different shirts and ask them to pick one. Do the same with pants and shoes. This is especially important when kids are at those ages that they are becoming more independent and assertive. They will not want to follow directions because they want to be their own person and lead their own life. So treat them like a big kid and let them choose what they would like to wear between two options.
Offer their favorites. Find their favorite outfit, or clothes in their favorite color, or favorite shoes. Kids are more likely to get dressed (even by themselves if they can) if you offer them their favorite outfit. I always get a big grin and gleeful shouts when I find my kids favorite outfits. What my kids hold very precious is their dresses, but especially ones that I make for them myself. Maybe your girls love a dress their grandma got for them.
Check the temperature. If it is hot outside and also too hot in your house, it is normal that the kids do not want to get dressed. They do not want to overheat. Turn down the thermostat and turn on a fan or the air conditioning. This way, if the room is comfortable enough the kids will not feel like they will overheat if they get dressed. If it is winter outside with snow out, simply point out to the window and show your kids that it is cold outside, so they will need to get dressed to stay warm.
Keep in mind that these tips may not work for every child. These tips work great for my kids, and they may work for yours as well. If you have any more tips to add, comment below!